Stepping Up

North Peace Society for the Prevention of Domestic Violence

What is A Healthy Relationship?

Healthy relationships are ones where your individuality is honored, respected and encouraged; you are able to maintain your own identity while being a part of a “together” identity as well.  The healthiest relationship you can have is with yourself.

In a healthy relationship you:

  • Feel safe
  • Can talk openly and honestly about the things on your mind
  • Feel like an equal
  • Are held accountable for your choices and actions (good and bad) but never punished for them
  • You are encouraged
  • You give and receive respect for your choices, beliefs and values – even if you don’t agree with one another
  • Have a healthy sexual relationship based on open communication
  • You feel free to be your best self

Definitions related  to being in a healthy relationship

Equality:  The equal treatment between people

Accountability: The state of being accountable, liable or answerable

Respect: Proper acceptance or courtesy


What is An Abusive Relationship?

Why does Violence happen?

People are not born with “angry genes”. Violent behaviour is often learned within family, community or media. Violence does NOT usually occur because of not caring. It is often the result of feeling out of control and needing to gain it back.

Can it be Stopped?

Violence can become a way of Life, but the pattern CAN BE BROKEN.

Am I being Abused? How do I know?….. Abuse can take several different forms.


1. Physical Abuse

Definition: Any unwanted attempt to control someone physically.

2. Sexual Abuse

Definition: Using someone’s sexuality to control him or her. (CONTROLLING, hurting or destroying them).

3. Financial Abuse

Definition: Using financial power to control others.

4. Abandonment

Definition: Not being available physically, pyschologically, or emotionally to a person who needs you and using this to control them.

5. Spiritual Abuse

Definition: Destroying someone’s sense of who they are.

6. Emotional Abuse

Definition: Controlling how another person feels. Playing on someone’s emotions.

7. Pyschological Abuse

Definition: Shifting responsibility by destroying a person’s thought patterns, making a person think that he/she is the cause of abuse.

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